Sunday April 8, 2012.
We did Seder at our house last night. 17 people. It was me and Janice,
Danielle and Pearce, Monica and Jason, Hinda and Jon, Heather and James, James'
brother Peter, Jay and Judie, Stephie and Jay, Justin, and Robbie. Seems like everyone
had a good time. Everyone seemed to like the food and the company. During the
evening, Jon even mentioned to me how nice it was that all the kids (meaning
the generation under 30!) got along so well. I agree. If there’s anything
contentious going on, it’s not apparent.
By design, I like to keep the religious side of things on the lighter
side.
Not everyone in the family is
Jewish.
We respect that and they respect
that it is a Jewish holiday.
We keep it
more about family and enjoying our time together.
I do like to bring the reason for the holiday
– Passover- to the table though.
The
story of the Exodus is common to Judaism and Christianity, so I don’t imagine
anyone minds doing that.
But of course
everyone is waiting for the real highlight of the evening – the meal.
That’s fine.
We have made the meal
the heart of the tradition in our family and at our holiday gatherings.
When I was a kid, our Seders focused on the
passages from the Haggadah.
The traditional
readings and songs.
And then the food.
Before our own families started to branch
out, Henry and I used to do our Seders together.
I miss those times when the two of us would
sort of take over the Seder when we sang some of the traditional songs.
Even though we haven’t done that in years,
having recently lost Henry, it was a poignant vacuum this year.
We always did such beautiful renditions of “V’hee
shi’omdah” and “B’tsas Yisroel”.
In recent years, I’ve just winged the telling of the story of the Exodus.
The Haggadah, the word means “The Telling”,
is a codified prescription of how to relate the story of the Exodus – the seminal
event in Jewish lore and history.
I got
a nice Haggadah last year, so this year, we did it a little different.
I marked off passages, and we passed the book
around.
People read the section and
passed it on.
It sort of worked.
We had a little fun with it and basically,
the story got told.
Then we ate.
Gefilte fish, not the
favorite among most of the non-Jews, was the first course.
As Danielle points out, if you didn’t grow up
with it you probably aren’t going to like it.
Seems to be true most of the time.
We made a delicious Haroset (basically, apples, nuts, wine and some
spices), then chopped liver, matzo ball soup, a couple different kinds of baked
chicken (Soy Vay and a savory herb), orange burgundy brisket with mushrooms,
kugel that Hinda made, a spicy carrot dish, salad (compliments to Judie), Moroccan
spinach, and a slew of desserts.
We’ve
come a long way from slavery baby!
We started about 6:30 and everyone was gone by 11:00.
The last couple hours was spent playing games
and talking.
We do all like each
other.
We’re fortunate that as the
family grows, it grows as a family.
The
kids loaded up on care packages, so there wasn’t too much left to worry about
how/where to store the leftovers.
Janice
and I cleaned up all the dishes and had the place pretty much back to normal before
we both passed out in front of the TV in the family room.
Something gave us strength to finally go up
to bed sometime before 2:00 AM.
This
morning was the rest of the cleanup – putting furniture back, vacuuming,
etc.
All in all, a great enjoyable night
with the family.
A few highlights:
Justin read the Four Questions in English.
Justin helped clear the soup plates – he asked me to tell everyone to let
him know when they were done.
I told him
he could do that.
He said, “I can’t.
I’m too shy.”
Jay Downs helped serve and clear plates.
Jay Abramson always helps out in the kitchen and at the table.
We played a game called Mad Gab and Peter called me a racist – I was making
fun of foreigners and their accents.
Jay
A said that Peter had never heard my father’s accent.
It’s cool Peter – I would’ve said the same
thing – even if it was an over reaction.
Heather’s gluten-free brownies were delicious.
Pearce made some home-made peppermint patty ice cream! Wow - was that good!
We went through about 3 ½ bottles of wine.
Many more, but hard to remember the day after.